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With time, it never gets better...


“It gets better, with time" or “Time heals…” we often hear those who are going through adversities, utter to console themselves. Time is one of the most respected, if not feared, abstract factors of life. We are either early, on time or late. The shrewd ones, would conclude that one’s success depends on whether they develop a habit of being early, on time or late; most would conclude that the first two are a definite win. 

Time is enormously essential. Others would conclude that time dictates life. The hoi polloi believes that things, often get better with time, or time has the power to eradicate our adversities; to some, they become more as time goes on. Everyone has got time. How they use it, is what defines them and the direction that their lives are headed towards. The difference between a wealthy man and poor man, besides the fact that one is wealthy and the other is impoverished; is how they spend their time; most shrewd, wealthy men would testify. Even at formal school, most of us are familiar with our former educators’ words of encouragement, which were aimed at impelling us to use our time wisely. We would often be advised to use most of our time working towards ameliorating our grades. Albeit, formal school is about grades more than obtaining understanding, but it has been proven a lot of times that those who spend most of their time ameliorating their school performance, will inevitably perform well and improve in their school work. 

When we’re going through adversities, nor a sharp vicissitudes of fortune, we often convince ourselves that it will get better with time. 

Does time, alone, make things better? 

Do we just do nothing and relax, while hoping things will automatically get better as time marches on? The “It gets better with time" aphorism is more esoteric, than vague. It requires critical thought; not credulity. 

Humans, have made a colossal mistake of assuming that only time is the master who solves every problem nor adversity. This thought, has impelled humans to make the fallacious assumption of concluding that only time heals, or only time makes things better; automatically, this esoteric idea impels the indolent thinkers to believe that effort is obsolete, when the subject of time is being raised. The aphorism, alone, has the ability to spark such ideas. Or one would conclude that this aphorism can be used by an indolent thinker to lambast its author, owing to the lack of understanding that the hoi polloi is engulfed by. Tireless effort, requires a strong mind. Without mental strength, it’s easier to give up, blame others for your misfortunes, or even commit suicide owing to a series of unfortunate events. 

We’ve been programmed to devoutly believe in the fallacious idea that adversities are life’s way of punishing us. We’ve been raised to believe that life should only comprise fortunate events, people who love us, people who don’t envy us, people who don’t want us dead, or people who won’t bewitch us; the worst poison we’ve been fed by the ones who raised us, which they’ve also been fed by the ones who raised them. It seems all this fallacious beliefs and education, will control the minds of the next generations to come. 

We claim we are free but the “Sobukwe Clause” is still holding us in solitary confinement, economically. We are the most economically disadvantaged race, in our own country. The banking system is utilizing a subtle way of oppressing the natives with its subtle clauses and processes, which the public is utterly oblivious to. The government, is using subtle ways of making it enormously difficult for the natives to thrive in agriculture, property, fishing and forestry, science and technology, healthcare, food and drugs, religion and spirituality, education, justice, law, intelligence, psychology, biology, politics etc. Simply, democracy is a more polite way of oppressing the natives. The natives, whose minds are engulfed by the “individual mentality” would conclude that “This is another individual, wearing a victim hat”. It is within their right to think that way. 

The 1948 racial segregation laws, subsequent to the end of the turf war between the Dutch and the British, and deciding to come together to exploit everything that belongs to Alkebulan. If things got better with time, we would’ve been economically free, and our lives would’ve been lived with our own standards. If it gets better with time, then we would’ve been in a better place, by now. Time marches, but so many situations and conditions have not changed. Alkebulan is still controlled by colonialists, land is still acquired by the colonialists, the natives are still occupying a preponderance of barren lands, the natives are still targets of black policemen who are working for a white government (the difference, now, is that it uses black politicians to do all the work), the natives are still being harassed for erecting shacks in a vacant land due to not having proper land to settle. The black men, who are labelled “Red ants" work hand in hand with black policemen and black men from the National Defense Force, to harass the great grandchildren of those who were bereft of everything, in their own continent. Time would’ve fixed all that, if it got better with time; therefore, it proves that not only time can make things better, but with the aid of effort and proper planning, and unity, then things will truly get better.

Time marches; it waits for no man to be ready, to be prepared enough, to be decisive, to be man enough, to be sure of what he truly wants. 

How can things get better with time, only? 

Why can’t we, humans, learn from time and do what it does? 

Time does not have bad days or the best days; time does not only march when it’s feeling like it. Time, has only one objective; to move. Not only to move, but to move forward no matter what the situation is or the conditions are. Time is mandated to move forward, to turn today into yesterday, to turn the future into today. We, as humans, should make it incumbent upon ourselves to not allow any factor, in life, to halt our progress, to make us feel like we are stagnant while others are moving, we shall not allow any factor in life to impel us to focus on the greener grass, which is on the other side. We should make incumbent upon ourselves to dedicate our lives to moving forward, whether we feel like we’re progressing or not, we shall dedicate our lives to moving forward even if the whole world believes it’s blasphemous to move. 

Things, never get better with time; effort is what makes things better!


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